It's been a while I know. Just didn't what to write.
There is so much going on here, sometimes struggling with the relation, and sometimes having problems with just being myself. Sigh from me!
Alright here we go...
Well the good news is I'm getting a tan, that must be from all the sunny days here and the walking distance to the beach! I love it! I grab many times my bike and travel around the area. So now and then I take the kids with me. A bit more luggage and responsibillity, but that's alright. The kids love it!
More good news is that the 'ex' brought the divorce papers with him on his last visit here in Barrie. He dropped by and took the kids out a few times before that, he's still stubborn and thinks the world ows him.
Noor is living with her Dad in Hamilton, Canada. Is she happy? I don't know, she said she is and she says she isn't. You really can't place her sometimes. (She can really turn you upside down so now and then) I think her Dad has really a 'grip' on her and commands her.
I always thought that the 'ex' had a plan, a plan to get the kids back with him. Although Saf has full custody over the kids. He just doesn't care.
'The misterious phonecall'
Mar wants to go to Egypth to see her cousins (just like she said last Summer) She is not alowed and still to young to travel. She isn't happy with that and hearing that Noor is going to live with her Dad, perhaps in Egypth doesn't make her happier! "why is 'she' allowed to go there" she says! She knows the reasons why she can't travel to Egypt but still. Sometimes Noora calls the house, and on a late evening Maryam answered the phone. Maryam just had friends over for a few weeks and they just left. (Mar feels lonely and wants to go to Egypt) Noor can help out.
They talk for a few hours on the phone and Saf gets suspicious "why the long phonecall with Noor"? She decides to listen off the phone. (what she never ever does, but thank God she did this time) She hears tears and sadness from Mar, and in the end Noor decides to take her to Egypt no matter what. Ofcource with help from her 'Father' cause that's the plan.
Their plan is that Noor and her 'Dad' are comming tomorrow and pick up Mar (and perhaps Ab and Tasn) Her 'Dad' is saying that Mar has to find the passports and be ready for tomorrow. It sounds like a kidnap. Saf hears it all trough the phone and is stunned! Her 'ex' and her own daughter wants to kidnap the kids and leave to Hamilton or Egypt, he is NUTS! He wont get far, it will be a trauma for the kids.
After the phonecall we stayed up almost all night, making plans and deciding what to do.... sigh, sigh, sigh! We took the passports, laptops and phones to be sure Maryam is not gonna use them. We even called the police for advice, they said 'we can't do a thing before 'he' does something wrong'
The next morning (after a few hours sleep) it was time to bring Dako home to Mississauga, Cle is comming for the ride aswell to visit some friends before she travels to the UK. Saf left early in the morning and left me behind with Ab and Tasn. (this was the plan) So she could be back at 'noon' before the 'ex' (could) arrive. I was kinda nervous ofcource, you never know it with the 'ex', he might show up before 'noon'.
But the day went well and know one showed up, pfffeewww! Later in the evening Saf had a 'karaoke' contest in Mississauga and we brought the rest of the kids with us. We brought them on a safe place with friends, cause 'he' still might show up. Still can't believe that 'he' doesn't think clearly with his 'kidnapping'. What is he thinking? LOL! Stubborn man! Saf is furious at the 'ex' and with her daughter Noor!
How am I under this all? I'm calmer then I was before, when I saw the 'ex' for the first time. Tas and I were sitting in the garden (this was back in 2009) and suddenly 'he' showed up out off knowhere, "Suprise" I almost frozed in the garden-chair. Tasn runned to her dad, leaving me behind. After 5 minutes I went inside to alarm the family.
It was my first ever meeting with the ex, from a distance though.
